How to Feel Happier and more Connected: a Hands-On Guide [Part 1]

How to Feel Happier and more Connected: a Hands-On Guide [Part 1]

I wonder if like me, you sometimes feel that life can speed past and slip through your fingers - gone, without you having properly connected to it while it was there?

More and more people have been telling me how disconnected they have come to feel and how much they long to feel a sense of connection - to others and their lives. In Part 1 of this guide, we look at how to connect to ourselves and life around us... 

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Permission for some You Time

Permission for some You Time

A promising young actress friend was assessed recently, following the success of a play she was in at her prestigious drama school. All the praise aside, she was also admonished for not spending enough time alone. I was thrilled to hear this, for those are wise words indeed. 

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What do you do when things change?

What do you do when things change?

Change can mean a lot of different things, and many changes to our lives and circumstances can be positive. However, sometimes a negative change or indeed simply the way we handle a shift in the balance of our lives can have a huge impact on our emotional health.

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Time to Talk - Interview on Mental Health and the Creative Mind

Time to Talk - Interview on Mental Health and the Creative Mind

Today, Thursday February 5th, is Time to Talk Day - an initiative led by Time to Change and other organisations, to encourage us to take just 5 minutes to talk about mental health.  In this 5 minute interview, I discussed the state of creative people in the world today, why we need you and one small thing you can do this week to improve your own emotional health.

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FREE AUDIO: The Constant Paradox of the Creative Mind

FREE AUDIO: The Constant Paradox of the Creative Mind

Creative minds are often buried under stress symptoms such as depression or anxiety. The talents are not recognised and people are confused about the contradictions. For instance, why can someone be in the zone, utterly absorbed one moment and yet distractible, forgetful and shambolic the next? Partners or parents lose patience, and creative minds themselves struggle through life tormented by feelings of guilt.

Listen to this extract from the CD, 'Calm the Chaos of the Creative Mind' to learn more.

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How Human Givens Coaching and Therapy can help Creative People

How Human Givens Coaching and Therapy can help Creative People

Human Givens teaches us about the central role of creativity in human existence, how to nurture it and rescue it. When creativity is well harnessed, it is one of our greatest resources!

Find out what a creative person can expect from Human Givens therapy.

Image: melanmagrippan 3 People Talking 

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Can Psychotherapy Help Me? (Part II)

Can Psychotherapy Help Me? (Part II)

Old habits die hard and some of them can keep us trapped. They affect our communication and connection to others, they hamper our ability to learn and grow, and they keep our horizon narrow.

Good psychotherapy helps break those shackles; it frees up physical and emotional energy and lifts us out of this confinement. Good therapy gives us the power to steer our own passage more accurately.

Here we look at behaviour patterns that stop people from developing and learning.

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Can Psychotherapy Help Me? (Part I)

Can Psychotherapy Help Me? (Part I)

We all stumble somewhere on life’s journey or find ourselves going round in circles, rather than moving on.

Exhaustion, worry, negative rumination, poor sleep, sadness, irritability, loneliness - these are all signs that life is out of balance. It may be that you are wondering what it’s all about or ‘why bother?’ - that you feel undervalued or out of control of important things in your life.

Do you indulge in addictive behaviours, feel bored, or are you worried that ‘this is all there is’?

If this resonates with you, then this post is for you! 

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Are you sound sensitive?

Are you sound sensitive?

 Have you ever turned the radio on, determined to listen to the news or weather forecast, and next thing you know it’s over - and you didn’t take in a word. A nuisance maybe, but quite painless otherwise.

Creative people - think dyslexia, AD(H)D, autism - are known to struggle with the written language: reading and writing.

We are less aware of quite how sound sensitive they can be. This they have in common with HSP (Highly Sensitive People) and strongly affects how they process sound.

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“What is wrong with you?!” - The Highly Sensitive Person

“What is wrong with you?!” - The Highly Sensitive Person

Recent research findings by leading experts in the field show that HPSs - or highly sensitive people - manifest more neurological brain activity when exposed to other people’s feelings, or pictures of emotions in others, than the average person.

About 20% of the population 'suffers' - and often quietly so - from these high levels of sensitivity. Growing up as an HSP can be difficult and confusing. Over-sensitivity and the fussing that can go with it, is seen as a flaw in western culture.

Find out more about Highly Sensitive People, tips and further reading in this post.

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Become more Stress Aware [ VIDEO INTERVIEW ]

Become more Stress Aware [ VIDEO INTERVIEW ]

Have you ever asked yourself how stress-resilient you are?

What are the things you do when the pressure rises? Do you nail bite, over-eat or –drink, become anxious or irritable? And do you spot the signs early enough to take action and avert the symptoms that herald more serious stuff ahead? We all need to stay informed about the many faces of stress-related symptoms.

Join me and hear what my Human Givens colleague, stress expert Emily Gajewski, has to say about self-harming and how to deal with it.

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8 Gift Ideas for a Compassionate Christmas

8 Gift Ideas for a Compassionate Christmas

Across the globe the December month stands for giving. It invites us to be generous and mindful of others. Are Black Friday and Cyber Monday proof of this generosity or indications that we have lost the heart of what makes this season so special? 

Christmas invites us to engage in the wishes of our friends and family and to reach out to those less fortunate, suffering from loneliness, illness or poverty. 

The question is whether our gifts need to be material. Are there other ways for our presents to be meaningful and lasting? If you too, are eager to have a more loving, compassionate Christmas then read on… 

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Tom's Story | Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in the Military

Tom's Story | Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in the Military

One in four homeless people is a former member of the armed services. Over 20,000 veterans are in jail or on probation.*

 Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is very real - and something we cannot begin to imagine. We are unable to comprehend the trauma but we can support those who are suffering.

I went to visit Tom, who was in Northern Ireland and the first Gulf War, and he told me his story. In this short video, we hear of the outstanding transformation his life took once he sought the help of PTSD Resolution.  

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Living at the Extremes – Is this you?

Living at the Extremes – Is this you?

Do you spend your life living at the extremes? Up or down. Black or white. 

The inner life of the AD(H)D experience, or that of the gifted creative person, can feel as turbulent and unpredictable as the sea itself. Let us explore the effects of living at the extremes and understand what we can do to sail on calmer waters. 

 

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Healing Heroes with Suzie Jennings [VIDEO INTERVIEW]

Healing Heroes with Suzie Jennings [VIDEO INTERVIEW]

Suzie Jennings, founder of Heroes at Ease, the first yoga programme specifically for wounded military, explains how yoga helps war veterans in overcoming PTSD.

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The Virtues of Monotasking

The Virtues of Monotasking

 Do you have trouble focusing? Does your memory often fail you? Creative people especially get more easily distracted, than anyone else; particularly if the task in hand does not come easily or seems less worthwhile.

Read on to discover how mono-tasking can help you better live up to your potential by improving the quality of your attention and power of concentration.

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The Value of Mindfulness with Sandra Tideman [VIDEO INTERVIEW]

The Value of Mindfulness with Sandra Tideman [VIDEO INTERVIEW]

Why has mindfulness become so popular?

Mindfulness practitioner and teacher Sandra Tideman-van Nispen explains in our video interview.

“Everyone who practices mindfulness regularly will find it brings a lot of benefits in life. It seems that particularly in the fast developing technological and modern digital world that we live in, we need it. Because nowadays most of the people most of the time actually train in mindlessness and restlessness!

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The Danger of Over-Simplification [VIDEO]

The Danger of Over-Simplification [VIDEO]

As Einstein said, “Everything must be made as simple as possible. But not any simpler. "

Chimamanda Adichie’s presentation ‘The Danger of Single Story’ has become one of the 20 most viewed TED talks. In it she warns of the dangers of over-simplification. It makes me think of our hunger for instant fixes and the desire to achieve this by effortless consumption.

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The Company you Keep

The Company you Keep

A client recently, complained about wanting to be herself; she was tired of a lifetime of playing different roles, as she saw it. “I still don’t know who I really am,” she bemoaned. “It makes me feel so disingenuous too.”

In extreme cases such a dilemma might require more serious help but often, as here, a different light shed on the matter is all that is needed for someone to see herself as a ‘relational’ being – constantly shaping and being shaped by those around her.

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Personal Leadership for All

Personal Leadership for All

Child psychologist John Bowlby suggested that life is best organised as a series of daring ventures from a secure base. 

The question, of course, is how to go about securing the safety. What helps people feel safe?

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