(Audio) Why can it be so difficult to snap out of angry behaviour?


In our stressful modern world, inappropriate expressions of anger are becoming more and more frequent. When anger flares up uncontrollably or chronically, it indicates that our lives are out of balance and is a sign that we need to address the angry behaviour.

Often, we can find ourselves trapped in this angry place and have a really hard time getting ourselves out. It can be an addictive state to be in and because of the brain's natural negativity bias, sometimes we really have to focus in order to break free.

If you find yourself easily hooked by your anger and are having difficulties snapping out of this habit - you are not alone!

So why do we like to bask in this rage when so often it has negative consequences?

Discover Why You're Having Trouble Snapping Out Of Your Angry State 

In my recent conversation with Catherine Robson about anger and the creative mind, we explored many components of anger and Catherine asked an important question that I believe many people will also wonder: why is it so difficult to snap out of angry behaviour?

Listen to this extract of our conversation to hear my answer.

It is also important to say that angry outbursts are not a reflection of who you are, but rather a clear sign that your life is currently out of balance. 

Before you listen, remind yourself that dealing with anger requires courage, because under its hard feelings and hard-bitten inclination, sit softer and more vulnerable feelings and they can be very scary to face up to.

If you enjoyed this extract of our conversation, then you'll find much more in 'A Guide to Understanding Anger' in which I explore why and how anger can manifest in our lives – as well as further practical ways to deal with excessive anger and a guided meditation to help you break old, unhelpful patterns. 


About Renée

Renée van der Vloodt ( M.A. , FHGI ) is a psychotherapist and coach – and has had a private practice for over 20 years, which is now based in Woodchurch (near Ashford), Kent.

Renée works with children and adults as a coach and therapist to help them overcome life's challenges and emotional difficulties including stress, burnout, anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anger or addictive behaviour.

Renée is a regular contributor to Breathe Magazine and the author of the CD Calm the Chaos of the Creative Mind.